My beautiful cousin Sara is expecting her first child. We go on jogs about once a week and talk, talk, talk. We talk about all kinds of things and lately we, naturally, have been talking about her pregnancy. On our last jog she was telling me about some pain she was having and she then asked me, “Did you have this kind of pain in either of your pregnancies? Do you remember this pain or has it been too long?”
“No, I don’t remember if I did. It has been too long.”
My eyes immediately widened as my mind replayed the conversation and the nugget of wisdom that had just emerged. I asked, “Sara, did you hear what you just said? You asked me if I remembered the pain or if had been too long.”
She grasped it as well and then the two of us, each, began reflecting back and sharing some of the hardest, toughest times that we have been through and how during those painful times it seemed like we would never recover and how as time passes, the pain lessens and even becomes difficult to recall.
This is something we all must remember when we are going through a difficult time, in pain, or deeply hurt. We must remember that with time, we heal. And with healing we recover. And with recovery we forget how painful it was. The opposite is true as well. Without healing we do not recover. Without recovery we do not forget. We stay stuck and the pain persists.
If you or someone you know is experiencing pain, take courage and know that with time you will heal. With the healing you will recover. And with the recovery, you will forget how bad the pain was. There will be a day, when it is hard to recall that you even felt the pain. There will be a day that you can say, “I don’t remember it being that bad.”
I know that is hard to fathom when you are in the thick of it. I know this from experience. Read my last blog, “I’ll never be the same.” I get it and at the same time, I know how with time, healing, and recovery I have forgotten the pain and so will you, if you just trust the process. Commit yourself to healing, recovering and letting go of the pain. Go with it, instead of fighting agains it.
And here’s a little motivation for ya- pain has a purpose and that purpose is good! Pain produces passion. It wakes us up. It produces purpose because we see and care about things in a much deeper way. Pain cultivates character, like compassion and patience. Pain may hurt at first, but with time it goes away.
We must not get discouraged or lose heart during the tough times. We must stay encouraged, filled with hope and acceptance. One day this will be behind us. We will have grown past this and we will come out better, stronger, and more resilient than ever.
Let’s make this a great week, one of appreciation for our current and past pains. They are and have helped shaped us in the great individuals that we are! Our best days are still in front of us, so lets enjoy our journey!
With Love and Volition,