Has that thought ever crossed your mind or have those words ever come out of your mouth?
If you have ever suffered a loss or have experienced some form of betrayal, failure, or trauma, chances are you have.
When we experience a really big problem, unwanted change or loss, something that feels devastating on any level, something that changes things in a big way, the truth is, we will never be the same.
This truth, “I’ll never be the same,” can either be a positive statement or a negative one.
In my experience, “I’ll never be the same” was negative. It was a heavy blanket of hopelessness, discouragement, and despair, something I resentfully and sadly rehearsed in my mind again and again, as I fought against reality.
“I’ll never be the same” played in my mind, all throughout the day, and that thought gave birth to a pretty sad and hopeless vision. I would be on a run and would all of a sudden realize that twenty minutes had gone by and I had been visualizing my future in a negative and hopeless light. “I’ll never be the same” was also the source to all kinds of worries and dreads. “I’ll never be the same” put me on a hamster wheel of discouragement and despair and I really couldn’t see things any other way.
I recognized that I needed to change my thinking. I needed to believe something better to get me out of my pain and pity. I tried thinking of better, more empowering, hope-filled thoughts, but “I’ll never be the same” got louder and louder. I could not replace that thought.
I realized that I could not replace it because it was true. I was never going to be the same. My situation was never going to be the same. This loss, this change, this betrayal had changed everything, and there was nothing I could do about it. But then, one day, the light went on for me. I realized this truth did not need to be a negative thing, like it had been.
I had been believing that “I’ll never be the same” was a bad thing because I was holding on to the way it was. I was wanting things to go back and be the same and I knew that was not possible. This caused “I’ll never be the same” to work against me, not for me, and it was time that I flip it around.
I made a shift. I embraced that “I’ll never be the same” was a good thing. I let go of what was lost, and a new vision began to unfold.
I’ve since kept my mantra, “I’ll never be the same! I will never be the same!” I let that play in my mind again and again, only this time it fuel me to visualize positive things. I reflect on how much I have grown because of the unwanted change, not despite it. I reflect on how much better I am now and how much better I am continuing to become.
- I am stronger.
- I am capable of so much more than I used to believe.
- I have greater patience.
- I have deeper compassion.
- I have greater humility.
- I am free from my old fears.
- I am more resilient and fearless than ever!
- I have greater confidence and self-love.
“I’ll never be the same” has become the heartbeat of my determination. It has become the stability in my resolve that my best days are still in front of me.
“I’ll never be the same” now fills me hope, with inspiration, and with expectancy for new levels of joy, happiness, and success.
So, where is the “I’ll never be the same” in your life? What unwanted change or loss has you believing that you will never be the same from a negative context?
If you find an area like this, just flip it, like I did, by asking yourself, “How am I better? Where can I get better, not bitter, because of this loss?”
Every time we face a situation that causes us to think and believe, “I’ll never be the same” or “It will never be the same” recognize that we are at a fork in the road. We must decide, “Do I want this, ‘I’ll never be the same’ to be a good thing or a bad thing?” We must decide.
If we don’t decide, chances are, it will be a bad thing and we will end up on the path of least resistance, like I was before, walking on a road full of discouragement, resentment, bitterness, cynicism, hard-heartedness, unforgiveness, complaining, and all sorts of negativity.
Let’s forfeit that route. Instead, let’s make the decision and make the determination that we will never be the same because we are going to come out better, wiser, more loving, kinder, stronger, more compassionate, and more courageous than ever.
Have an awesome week of growth and resilience and please SHARE this message with anyone you know who is on a hamster wheel of negativity. I believe it will help them!
With Love and Volition,