It’s not the end of the world

My best friend Sabrina and I have a phrase that we have been sharing with each other since we were quite young. It is a phrase of challenge that we speak into each other’s lives in times of panic, in times of heartbreak, in times where we feel completely lost and in over our heads.

Sabrina and I have been friends since I was four years old and she was five, so this phrase, this tool, this strategy has stood the test of time, age and complexity of problems. I thought it would be helpful to offer it to you this week.

It goes something like this, “It’s not the end of the world.”

That’s it. That’s my offering. That’s the tool I have to share. It might sound too simple to be useful in your situation, but you at least gotta try it. Maybe you are facing something really big and it really is “the end of the world,” your world. If that’s the case, you must add the following:

“I know it feels like it is, but it’s not.”

So, to recap it goes like this, “It’s not the end of the world. I know it feels like it is, but it’s not.”

Yep, that’s it. That’s the tool. Stay with me…

You see, “It’s not the end of the world” is more than a phrase. It is a choice. It is an empowering perspective and it may just be the perspective that will get you unstuck and back in the driver’s seat of your situation.

I happen to be writing on this topic because I am currently in need of this tool and this strategy. I have been stuck in the muck in a situation in my life and it does feel like the end of the world. I have been drowning in my own apocalypse. I have tried everything you could imagine to get unstuck. When I say everything, I mean everything…says the woman who is stuck…

Anyways, today as I was walking out of yoga, I noticed the peace and relief that I had created during my yoga practice somberly get suffocated by the blanket of depression that was patiently awaiting me outside the studio. “Ughhhh, I thought I kicked this mood!” and then I remembered, “It’s not the end of the world.”

I felt a little better, but the heaviness was so persistent, so I added “It’s just depression” to my perspective and immediately started laughing.

It really put things in perspective. It lightened my load and I experienced what happens when humor meets depression- magic! The magic opened up, “It’s just temporary. It’s just silly. It’s just not a big deal anymore and it’s just life,” and all the “It’s just…” thoughts continued to come in and transform my perspective of the end of the world into a very accepting and light hearted perspective. And now here I am, writing and sharing with you some of my life. It feels great. That end of the world feeling is currently gone.

It will come back, as it always does, with the next disappointment, challenge or failure, but I have my tool in hand, ready to go. I will remember, “It’s not the end of the world.” I hope you will remember it too.

The end of the world may come and we may or may not be alive to see it, but until it happens, let’s appreciate each every moment in this life as a human, that entails the “good” and the “bad” the pleasure and the pain.

Let’s have a great week noticing how it is not the end of the world.

With Love and Volition,